Notice: This entry was published 4 years ago and may no longer reflect my views today.

Michael and I celebrated two years of marriage last November 30. We spent the whole Sunday playing Dragon Age and ordering pizza. It was perfect. We’re a very chill couple. With our fifth dating anniversary coming up, I thought I should share a little bit of our extremely austere wedding with you guys. We both knew we wanted to build a life together (him much sooner than me). We were young and madly in love. Crazy enough, we had our parents’ blessings. In the aftermath of my dad’s hard battle with cancer and eventual passing, my mom wanted to see some happy news for once.

We were also broke.

So we just went down to the courthouse and signed the papers, and then had dinner with family and friends. Boom, married.

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Kensie lace cream dress from Macy’s, nude heels from Payless

Here’s a retro outfit post from my “wedding!” Kept it very simple. I picked up this lovely dress just for the day with the assumption that I’d be wearing it again for other special occasions. I didn’t want to spend money on something I’d only be wearing once.

To be honest, that day was a blur to me. I felt very nervous saying my vows, even if it was just close family and friends present. I’m still pretty shy and not very comfortable having all eyes on me. I don’t want to imagine the anxiety I’d have gone through with an ostentatious wedding!

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We did spring for a photographer a week later! I was still so awkward and nervous lol, but I had a lot of fun doing this post-wedding shoot. I left my photobook in Vegas with my in-laws for safekeeping, but I’ll upload more pictures here when I have it again! For now here’s two of my favorite shots.

Do I regret getting married so hastily? Nope! I’m very happy with my husband. I can’t imagine being with anyone else.

Would I do it again? You know, that’s a good question. It always comes up when I tell people how I got married. I don’t think I’ve missed out on anything (you’re reading about someone who didn’t have prom or a debut either), but I understand that weddings are a big deal for some people. I do wish that some of my other friends could’ve been there. A few of them have suggested a vow renewal in ten years. That’s not a bad idea. I don’t know if it’ll actually happen, but it’s fun to talk about!

If I could have another wedding, I’d want it in only one place: Salcedo Park.

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I lived not too far from this park. It’s beautiful and I have a lot of good memories of it. I’ve always considered Makati City to be my real home. Of course, I’d love to go back there! I’d want it to be during the holiday season, when warm Christmas lights cover every tree and the evenings are cool and crisp. The whole park had a romantic glow. How beautiful would that be?

And of course, the dress! I looked up a few on Lover.ly, and it was surprisingly hard to choose just one. They have so many beautiful bridal dresses. Can I have like five vow renewals so I can wear five different dresses? XD

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Tea-length dresses are everything. ♥ I’d still like to keep my dress relatively simple, with just a few details to tie it all together. A fresh green bouquet would be lovely for the setting too. The park is very green, and while I’m all about pink and red colors right now, it wouldn’t look quite right. I’m still quite into fresh greens. I haven’t lived in a tropical place in years now. I miss it a lot.

To be honest all I’ve ever thought about was the location and my dress, haha! Weddings are a monster to plan. But I still got time. Our ten-year anniversary is still a long time away.

How about you? Do you have your wedding planned out? Tell me about your dream wedding dress!

Stock image used for the post thumbnail is courtesy of Free Images.

Comments

  1. Awww! You look beautiful, Raisa!

    Jackson and I are celebrating our 8 years together on Valentine’s Day because our anniversary is on Feb. 3. Might as well hit two birds with one stone.

    As for wedding talk… We both want it to happen, but since we are still graduate students, it’s not going to happen soon. I’d like to get married once one of us is at least working and for me that would be in two years at least. And for him? Well, he wants to get a Ph.D.

    I haven’t really given much thought about the future wedding though.
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    1. Ahaha we got together on Feb 4!

      Definitely take your time and focus on school. Even if getting married young worked out for me, I don’t like to go around telling people to do the same. I know we’re the exception, and it wasn’t easy to be honest. We stayed broke for a while.

      Good luck to you both and congratulations! Eight years is nothing to sneeze at. Here’s to many more! :D

  2. I think wedding should be a special moment between you and your husband-to-be. So I’m all for cheap weddings because in the end, it’s the vows and the love between the couple that matters. All that money spent on wedding make me mentally scream. I’d rather spend that money on a good honeymoon and on something we’d need, like . . . oh, I don’t know a downpayment on a house. Something practical. I know that when and if I ever get married, I’d rather do something you did. I’m all for going to the courthouse to get the paperwork and then having a nice dinner with my families and friends. That pompous stuff is so not me.

    The dress you wore is so pretty! I love it! And I love how it is one of those dresses you can wear again — not just for a one-time thing :D

    And that other dress you chose — the one in the gallery? Now that’s gorgeous. That’s a dress I’d even wear, and I’m not a dress person at all! But if I had to wear a dress, I’d wear something like that!
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    1. Haha I did get to wear the dress again on my sister-in-law’s wedding the year after! It was great coz I didn’t have to worry about what I was going to wear.

  3. You don’t have to wait for 10 years to renew your vows– you can even do it when it hits five years and that way you can plan quicker and wear more dresses ;)
    What I’ve seen some brides do is wear one dress for the actual ceremony, and one for the reception. If you’re going to have a small dinner reception with friends and family, you could wear another dress. :) It’s not five different dresses, but it may solve some of that issue. :P

    Congratulations to you and your husband and a belated happy wedding anniversary. For as often as I spend in the Philippines, I haven’t actually been to Salcedo Park, but it’d be beautiful for a wedding ceremony. :)

  4. You look absolutely gorgeous in your wedding dress! And that’s an incredible story. Congratulations! And I love Makati City. Not sure if I went to Salcedo Park while I was there this weekend but I can imagine a lot of beautiful areas to get married at.

    I know which church I want to get married in (although that may change depending on where I am in life, who I find myself with, etc.), I also have a color scheme picked out: pearl white with royal blue accents. And I have ideas for my dress but not an exact photo or anything. I’m currently single though and not quite ready to mingle so marriage is something I don’t even want to bother thinking about right now.
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  5. Girl, you’re so pretty <3! I've never really thought about getting married, but I'd definitely want a more intimate one. I managed to get out of having a debut, and getting out of prom/grad ball, so I'm sure I can do that with a wedding lol.

    And that park is so pretty! It'd be a nice location! Can you even get married in parks in the Philippines o_o?
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    1. That’s a good question. I’m not sure! I know my aunt got married in this area in Binictican but it was a private property so idk.

  6. I am sorry to hear about your father. That would have been such a difficult time, so it’s nice that there could be some form of celebration.

    That sounds like a lovely idea to renew the vows. You could do it whenever you had the money too.

    Main thing is that you are happy together and have each other. :)
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  7. Aw, that’s such a sweet story! Congratulations!

    I can’t picture myself having a huge wedding. It just sounds so stressful. I love the idea of what you did and just going to the courthouse. Because in the end, all that matters is that you have both pledged a vow to each other. That and the legal document!

    All the very best this year for you both~
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  8. I think that’s a great story, and you looked beautiful on your wedding day :D I love that dress! Good idea to get one you can use again!

    I had a big wedding, and it was definitely stressful and expensive to plan. I don’t regret it, but it was a lot of pain for about a year. Small ones are nice since they are more personal and intimate :) Some people want a big one so they can invite everyone, and that’s fine too. I think the wedding should just match the couple’s wishes!

    A vow renewal sounds like a great and fun idea :D I love those 2 dresses you picked out! I wasn’t a fan of the shiny, poofy dresses, so I had a slim floor length dress with lace details. I added color with a silver ribbon above my waist :)
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  9. You look beautiful Raisa! And congratulations on your anniversary! <3

    Honestly? I don't really have any ideas about my wedding…I'm not big on large get togethers so it'd probably be a low key with close family and friends. That is, if I ever get married!

    Your dress is stunning and so is the one you found *__*
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  10. I’ll admit it, I had a church wedding, but it wasn’t fancy and neither was my wedding dress. Funny how you say 2 years, when I will celebrate my 2nd year wedding/marriage anniversary with my husband in March of this year.

    Regardless in the end, we all got what we want, and I bet we are married to wonderful people ^.^
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  11. Congratulations on your 2 year wedding anniversary!

    I think there’s something charming in small weddings. It’s more personal and intimate.

    I know for my culture, it is the norm to hold huge wedding banquets. Where you invite your mother’s mother’s sister’s son, etc.. And it’s so busy that you won’t have time to sit and talk to your guests.

    I don’t want that.

    I thought I was getting married soon, so I planned and planned.
    But I got a new relationship now. And he is not planning to get married anytime soon. Plus, it would be creepy of me to plan a wedding so early in the relationship.

    Thing is..
    During my previous relationship few years back, I cried because my then boyfriend(who was in school) didn’t want to get married.
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  12. I’m not one to think about relationships (or at least i try not to think about them since they’re too troublesome) but if ever i am involved in one, it’d be nice to have a significant other who’s also an avid video gamer so instead of going out and getting exposed to the sun and the infectious outside world, i’d rather spend time indoor and play video games with him 24/7 LOL i’m such a hermit and i’m forcing the boyfriend to also be quite the hermit, ey.. (unless my dude suggests we do nature adventure – hey that rhymes! – i’d rather stay indoor, gobble up pizza and play video games. no exercise, ever. HAHA)

    HAHA you want five vows for five different dresses? but that would mean you’d get all eyes on you FIVE TIMES. the pressure is too high! are you seriously asking for that lol jk

    i like your dress. simplicity is the best. i hate it when people think that when there’s an event, it’s a must to dress extravagant. i think that’s a silly concept and that silly concept is something i was fed with when i was a child – bummer, this is how it was if you’re born in a chinese family full of adults being hypocrites focusing on outside appearances so much. nevertheless, i think you’re beautiful! :)

    lol i’m still 19 so nope, no way am i gonna think about this kind of stuff. i know some of my friends who think about such stuff already though; in high school, they even had this thought of what their dream wedding would be like. me? i’m too engrossed in video games and all the hobbies and interests i have to care about this kind of stuff. like i said, i avoid the whole thing involving the heart – crushes, love, relationships, etc. i don’t know, man. i’d rather deal with stuff that get my gears working, like science, space, animals and some logical thinking. of course, video games will always be extremely important :P
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  13. Congratulations on reaching well over 2 years in your marriage (with many hopes of more to come!!!)

    It’s great that you both had support from your parents! That’s one of the hardest things to have. Your lace dress is so sososososososo cute! :D. I love your photoshoot pictures; especially the one with the traditional Asian outfits!

    I didn’t have a prom debut either, and I don’t really care anymore at this point. It was bothering me for a while during the time, but I learned there’s more to life than prom. Marriage renewal doesn’t sound like a bad idea at all! You get to wear a cute dress and everything!

    I don’t even have my wedding thought about yet. Kind of sad that I have all of the details about the 3 cars I will buy within the next 13 years BUT NOT my wedding! Huhuhuhu, but I did have a dress in mind, anything with ruffles on the bottom!!!
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  14. Made it here by skimming through a host of other (more recent) posts. Hi Raissa, I’m Dani and I have a feeling I’ll be a regular here! :) You have such a pretty blog and the way you write makes for light reading. Anyway, I’m all for “austere” when it comes to celebrations. A wedding (while fun and memorable) is only for a day, but marriage is for a lifetime. I’m currently single but in separate conversations with a close friend and an old flame, I did mention that I certainly would not mind if it happens for me through a quick appointment at the courthouse. I love, love, love your dress! :)
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  15. Soooo glad you don’t close comments after x amount of time. I saw this post on my bloglovin’ feed & I just had to leave you a comment.

    You look beautiful on your wedding day & the photoshoot photos are also beautiful. I browse Pinterest pretty frequently so I know that, “damn can I get married like 10 times so I can have these 10 dresses???” feel. I think if you’re up for it in 8 years, you really should renew your wedding vows & have that wedding you kind of imagined (location + dress). Nothing huge & fancy, just all the people you wish you could’ve had with you & a dress you knew made you feel like a blushing bride. Surely with Michael being a physician & all, you’ll have a bit of money to splurge for the wedding! Er…I mean, renewal.

    My parents also married when they were broke & my mom was really young, but then they worked hard, saved up a lot, & had their wedding vows renewed. It was a whole ordeal with the kids & everything. Just don’t….do a Mariah Carey & you’re good!
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